The term solo aging is exactly what it sounds like — growing old alone — and it’s a reality for many older adults today. Whether by choice or circumstance, being a solo ager doesn’t have to mean being totally isolated and alone, even if you don’t have immediate family, adult children, or a spouse or partner to walk through this part of life with. What it does mean, though, is that you need to prepare for the unique challenges that aging alone often presents.
Census Bureau research estimates that about 27% of adults over 60 live alone and don’t have adult children — that’s 22.1 million people. As current societal trends continue shifting toward smaller families and higher rates of staying single, the number of solo aging adults is expected to rise even further. With proper planning and the right support resources, though, growing old alone can be fulfilling.
Keep reading to learn how to age independently and gracefully. Empower yourself with the knowledge and tools for individual living here, so you can live your life knowing how to navigate healthcare without family, build strong support systems, remain financially secure, and prioritize your health with confidence.
Building a Strong Support System
One of the most important resources you have as a solo ager is your support system. Having people who can offer you companionship and assistance when you need it most is crucial to life satisfaction, fulfillment, and your ability to stay safe.
Creating a social network
Building and maintaining meaningful social connections helps combat loneliness in retirement and enhance emotional well-being when your social circles drastically change.
Studies show that having a strong social network is linked to improved cognitive health. Other research indicates that social media use by older adults can increase self-competence and benefit mental and physical well-being — and further studies found that social technology use is associated with better health, fewer chronic illnesses, and reduced depressive symptoms.
Some of the best ways to stay socially active in retirement, cultivate meaningful connections, and combat loneliness include:
- Joining community groups: Local senior centers, book clubs, libraries, and fitness classes all offer fun ways to meet up with other aging adults.
- Finding group meeting places: Use coffee shops, libraries, or community centers for convenient and free places to get together.
- Using technology: Platforms like Facebook and Zoom make it easy to keep in touch with friends and family, even if you’re far apart.
- Volunteering: Giving back fosters a sense of purpose and allows you to build relationships with other service-minded people.
“Solo agers can build a strong social network by engaging in community, join groups that are aligned with their interests, and participate in volunteer work. They can maintain connections by having virtual meetups, using social media, and joining online communities. They can work on developing friendships with their neighbors and community members to create a strong support system.”
Preparing for emergency care
When you don’t have support from family or a partner as a solo ager, creating a solid legal plan for health emergencies is vital. If you’re ever incapacitated or can’t make decisions on your own, this plan ensures you have a say in what happens to you. If you don’t have immediate family to rely on, you should appoint someone you trust to step in when needed during an emergency, such as a friend or neighbor.
Make sure that you:
- Designate a healthcare proxy or power of attorney who can make critical medical decisions on your behalf.
- Build relationships with friends and neighbors you can count on in an emergency.
- Explore professional caregiving services ahead of time so you have a plan for someone qualified to oversee your care if the time ever comes.
Financial Planning for the Future
Financial planning is essential at any stage of life, but when you’re a solo ager, it becomes even more critical. Taking proactive steps now can help you maintain financial stability, ensure quality care, and secure your legacy.
Assessing your financial situation
Understanding your financial health is the first step to a secure future. Take stock of your:
- Savings: Assess your current nest egg and identify any shortfalls.
- Income streams: Factor in pensions, Social Security, and other revenue sources.
- Retirement accounts: Review your 401(k), IRA, or other investments.
- Monthly expenses: Track spending to ensure long-term sustainability.
Consider using financial planning software or working with a financial advisor to identify potential gaps and create a solid plan for the years ahead.
Planning for long-term care
Long-term care is one of the most significant expenses you’ll face while aging alone. Whether you prefer in-home care or assisted living, the costs can add up quickly. While research suggests that in-home care is sometimes more affordable, it’s not always a feasible option. Planning ahead can help you avoid financial strain. Consider:
- Exploring long-term care insurance: Determine if you qualify and if it’s a good fit for your needs.
- Researching Medicaid benefits: Check income requirements to see if you’re eligible for assistance.
- Setting aside dedicated savings: Build a financial cushion specifically for future care.
Estate planning and legal documents
Estate planning isn’t just about distributing assets—it’s about ensuring your wishes are honored and your affairs are in order if you become incapacitated. As a solo ager, having the right legal documents in place is crucial. Key documents to prepare include:
- Durable power of attorney (POA): Appoints someone to handle financial decisions if you’re unable to.
- Healthcare proxy: Designates a trusted individual to make medical decisions on your behalf.
- Will or trust: Outlines how your assets will be distributed after your passing.
- Physician orders for life-sustaining treatment (POLST) or medical orders for life-sustaining treatment (MOLST): Ensures your medical care preferences are followed.
Make sure these documents are legally prepared, properly notarized according to your state’s laws, and stored securely. Most importantly, inform a trusted friend, relative, or legal professional about their location so they can be accessed when needed.
Health and Wellness as a Solo Ager
As you age on your own, prioritizing health and wellness becomes more important than ever. Small, consistent actions can greatly enhance your quality of life and help you age gracefully, both physically and emotionally.
Maintaining physical health
Staying physically active is essential for solo agers. Not only does exercise benefit your body, but it also offers opportunities to connect socially, which is important for mental well-being. Regular activity lowers the risk of chronic diseases, boosts your mood, and improves your overall energy. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate activity each week, and don’t forget to:
- Eat a balanced, nutritious diet: Focus on fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, healthy fats, and lean proteins.
- Establish a consistent sleep routine: Prioritize quality rest to support your physical and mental health.
- Manage chronic conditions: Follow your doctor’s advice on treatment and medication.
- Stay on top of regular checkups: Routine visits are key to staying ahead of any health concerns.
Mental health and emotional well-being
Mental health is just as crucial as physical health, especially as we age. It’s important to manage stress, reduce anxiety and depression in retirement, and cultivate emotional resilience. Consider incorporating practices like:
Online platforms like Talkspace make therapy accessible for aging adults without the headache of traveling to and from appointments.
“Therapy provides solo agers with a safe space to process emotions, build resilience, and develop coping strategies for challenges like loneliness or life transitions. Through support groups they can find connection, shared experiences, and encouragement from others facing similar situations. Both of these can help reduce isolation, boost mental well-being, and foster a sense of belonging.”
Housing Options for Solo Agers
As you age, your living situation may become more difficult to manage alone. However, there are several housing options to consider, and planning ahead can ease the transition if you need to make a change.
Aging in place
If staying in your own home is important to you, aging in place could be a viable option — but it may require some adjustments to ensure safety and comfort.
- Home modifications: Install grab bars in bathrooms and near stairs, widen doorways to accommodate wheelchairs or scooters, and consider non-slip flooring.
- Smart home technology: Equip your home with medical alert systems and automated lighting to make daily tasks easier and safer.
Assisted living or senior communities
If you’d like more structure and support, assisted living facilities or senior communities might be a good fit. These offer benefits like social opportunities, meal preparation, and healthcare services. Many facilities also provide a seamless transition from independent living to skilled nursing if your needs change over time.
Downsizing or relocating
There may come a time when you need or want to downsize or relocate to a new area. Moving to a smaller home or an age-friendly community can help reduce maintenance burdens. It can also solve accessibility needs. To make the process as easy as possible, you should:
- Research areas where senior living communities are available.
- Decide what services are important to you — like transportation, social activities, house cleaning, or meal delivery or preparation.
- Hire professional organizers to assist you with the downsizing process.
“Solo agers can ease the transition to a new living situation by planning ahead, downsizing gradually, and choosing a community that aligns with their lifestyle. By staying socially engaged and establishing routines they can create a sense of familiarity and comfort. Seeking support from friends, family, or mental health providers can also make the process smoother and less overwhelming.”
Preparing for a Fulfilling Solo Aging Experience
Solo aging is an increasingly popular choice for today’s older population, but it requires intentional planning to prepare for physical and psychological disorders that affect older adults. You’ll need to consider things like social connections, finances, housing, and the perks or services you want. This time in your life can be an incredible opportunity for personal growth and independence. By taking proactive steps to protect your health, finances, and overall well-being, you can shape your future so it’s as secure and deeply rewarding as you want it to be.
Therapy provides essential emotional support for solo agers. With mental health resources covered by Medicare, you have access to tools that’ll help you navigate the complexities of solo aging. Take charge of your future today by creating an empowering plan that allows you to thrive independently as you embrace the joys of aging on your terms.
Reach out to Talkspace today to learn more about online therapy covered by Medicare.